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One of my former friends used to support me, comfort me when I was down over people harassing me for my F/O, but when they turned their back on me they said I was problematic for loving my F/O, and “forcing them” to do these things for me… Like, manipulating them into comforting and indulging me. I still fear that this is actually what I did without realizing it.

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Anon, the advice I give you depends strongly on an important factor.

Are your F/Os system members, soulbonds, or other real, people with agency of their own that you share your internal experience with in some way?

or are they just fictional characters that you write about and enjoy and play pretend with?

Because if they’re just fictional characters then it is impossible to manipulate them in any meaningful way. It’s like saying you’re manipulating a doll or a teddy bear. It’s ridiculous. There’s no need for you to feel guilty about any of it, because there is no real person for you to harm. Full stop. You’re fine.

If they’re system members, or other internal people with agency then it could be possible that you have been manipulative, or that your actions have caused harm.

Here’s what you should do if your F/O is a real internal person with agency that you worry you have been manipulating.

The same thing you’d do with any other partner you worried that you had caused harm to.

Talk to them about your feelings.

Communicate with them.

Ask them what they want, and if they feel harmed.

And if they do feel harmed, apologize, and ask them how you would like to proceed in the future.

spaghetti and scrambled eggs…. i shouldn’t ask but im mordbidly curious

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Omg, okay so about two weeks ago we had some leftover spaghetti from dinner the night before, but it only had a little bit of sauce on it, and there was no more sauce.

🌀😎 (Komaeda) was awake that morning with Makoto from our partner system, and wanted to make something for breakfast. There wasnt any bread in the house for toast with eggs, and Ko figured it would be good to use up the leftovers, but decided that we needed some kind of protein.

I THINK his logic was something like the scrambled eggs would make up for the lack of sauce, and the concoction would be something like a low rent shakshuka. But uh. That didn’t happen.

Instead it was really dry. Like, really dry. And also parts were soft and other parts were crispy.

Makoto ate it, and they laughed about it, but Ko was a lityle bit distraught, wailing, as we ofyen say to each other “why am i like this? It’s not a bit!”. He’s a little frustrated that he genuinely can’t cook, and it’s not just a meme 🤣🤣🤣

I don’t think he’s ever learned how to cook in ANY of his shifts/lifetimes. MAYBE as Sean but then only like a couple of specific recipes.

Do you guys get angry if a different alter eats the food you made? /light-hearted What about other things, like drinks or movies or games?
– 🍉💌

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Sometimes we will play a teasing game of it, actually! And also we do like cooking for each other. There’s a few system members who are just abysmal cooks to the rest of us, so when they’re around someone else will usually switch in or confront to make the food.

🌀😎 and 🕷️😎 are both notorious for ruining food– last time 🕷️😎 tried to make rice without a rice cooker it was somehow both overcooked and undercooked at the same time. And don’t even get me started on 🌀😎’s “spaghetti and scrambled eggs.”

More often when people get annoyed it’s when someone switches out in the middle of eating something that the person switching in doesn’t like. ❄️💪 loves mountain dew and 😼🔪 and a lot of the rest of us hate it which has been a problem before 🤣🤣🤣

Hey just wanted to say that it’s cool to find another system who has similar beliefs on spiritual connection as we do! Also antis would absolutely despise me from the trauma I experienced to the way I cope with it because I somehow went thru a romanticized traumatic scenario bc the guy was a victim himself who didn’t know that it was wrong and thought it was another way of showing affection until he realized and kinda abandoned us which left me with really fucky feelings about all the memories. But even so it has always made us feel that comparing fiction to the reality we went thru is really insulting to us because none of the characters are real. Sorry if this is all a little trauma dumpy we just like how you guys are able to not let antis and other people hold you back. We’re still working on that. Also sorry for any possible spelling mistakes we missed we have dyslexia!

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Thank you for sharing your experience, anon.

We’re all really glad to know that there are spiritually oriented systems like us out there too.

Fancops/antis in general have a very back and white mentality and a lack of nuance in their understanding of trauma (among other things) which leads them to reject things and people that don’t fit their understanding of the world.

Please delete this if you don’t feel comfy answering Do all of your alters share the same opinions about shipping as the main ones who run this blog?

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Hi anon! Thanks for the question!

♦️ First off (and we will probably add this to our bio) “alter” is a strictly clinical term that applies specifically to members of a DID system or other plural system under a clinical model.

You haven’t done anything wrong, but we want to make it clear that this isn’t terminology that we use for our system members, as it does not apply to us, and makes many of us uncomfortable to have used to describe us for reasons I won’t go into here.

When you don’t know what language a plural system uses to describe the people in their system “system members” is always a safe bet!

♦️ As for your actual question; there aren’t any members of our system who would specifically fall on the ‘anti’ side of things, but there are a lot of us who just don’t care, think it’s a stupid thing to waste energy arguing about, etc.

There are a number of our members who are squicked by the same kinds of things that typically upset fancops, but they are capable of exercising “don’t like, don’t read”.

For the record, there are ~25 members of Sinister, most of whom front in the body fairly regularly, but a lot of us have no interest in blogging/fanfiction/discourse outside of occasionally talking about their day or reblogging picture of themselves.

The handful of us you see posting regularly are the ones who are interested in those things for the most part.