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Why do people say I’m trauma dumping when i’m just talking about my life experiences that I don’t see as trauma

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Hmmm, anon, in my experience there are two possibilities here.

Possibility one: like a lot of people you have traumatic experiences that you have not yet processed and understood as trauma.

When you talk about these experiences it makes other people uncomfortable because they recognize their upsetting and traumatic nature.

Possibility two: people are using a recently popularized buzzword to shut down any conversation they don’t want to have, and abdicate the responsibility for caring about other people.

Please note that there is a lot of space for nuance between these two possibilities, I am not a therapist, just a funny little girl, and I don’t know any details about your situation!

I bringing gentle parenting into my workI love it when kids don’t see you as an authority figure but instead someone who they trust and can help them solve problems Asking “why” when a kid is upset or acting is a huge game changer cause then you can get to the root of the issue I remember as a kid I was having a daytime AIWS/panic attack so I was trying to calm myself down by picking my finger but the teacher just saw me picking and she shouted at me for picking and not singing but I wish she brought me to the side and asked what the matter was I want to be the person I needed when I was little

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I want to be the person I needed when I was little

So much of that sentiment drives our motivation too, anon.

You sound like a wonderful person, and I’m glad that these kids have you to rely on.

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To all of us who need to hear it today:

“they’re family” doesn’t mean it isn’t abuse.

“they never hit me” doesn’t mean it isn’t abuse.

You don’t have to like someone who violates your boundaries.

Being nice to you on occasion doesn’t negate their abuse.

Family shouldn’t criticize everything you do, bully you, or put you down and laugh.

Family shouldn’t take your things, or break them to hurt, upset or control you.

Family shouldn’t try to control you.

You don’t deserve to be yelled or screamed at.

You don’t deserve to be put down or insulted.

You don’t deserve to starve.

You don’t deserve to be hurt or punished.

You deserve love and good things in your life.

Love and good things are coming. You can make it.

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“motherhood and pregnancy aren’t comparable to drawn pedophilia or rape or incest, though, are they?

@eerie-entityy do you realize that what you have just said is that you think that some people’s trauma and triggers are not as important as other people’s?

Do you realize that you have just causally dismissed the trauma that resulted from my abuse?

Do you realize that you are saying some people’s triggers and trauma don’t matter to you as much as others?

Does it register to you that that is what you’re saying?

Does it register to you that you’re saying that not just to me but to every other trauma survivor?