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what’s the “pains” series?

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“The pains series” referred to a series of images commonly circulated on the old internet with the intent to cause pain and disturb the viewer.

These images were passed around untagged, uncensored and unwarned for, often under deceptive links, to force unwilling and unsuspecting people to click on and view them.

Many of these images were gore images from rotten dot com, but they also included things like medical waste, pornography generally considered to be unappealing, etc.

Some of the more famous and prevalent images were:

Lemon party: a bunch of geriatric people engaged in sexual activity

Goatse: A man stretching his anus extremely wide in full view of the camera.

Tubgirl: a fat woman in a bath tub, i believe the tub was filled with supposed fecal matter.

2 girls 1 cup: two women supposedly consuming fecal matter

Harlequin fetus: a deformed fetus

Those are the ones I remember most clearly. They were impossible to avoid.

When I was a minor I was heavily sexually groomed over course of few months by grown ass man who lied to be my age. Thankfully this was mid 10s and I had some sense of internet safety drilled in my head to not give out my address, full name, pictures of area around my house, school name and so on. I even lied about things like month of birth and pets names. He had no other way to contact me other than one social media and one random ass forum group. Not even via gmail. Only thing he had was my first name, age, broad area where I lived and unfortunately pictures of me cuz I was idiot to send them. Yes, explicit ones unfortunately Long story short, I found out he was registered sex offender in 40s, not 16 year old boy as he claimed. What precisely prompted me to hide and lie about basic info, I’m still not sure to this day because I genuinely thought I was having online relationship with someone year older than me. But I wonder if it literally saved my life. Or at least allowed to live free of fear he had enough info to find me again, be it online or offline So you have no clue how much it freaks me out to see kids and even young adults give out personal info to total strangers every day online

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sleepisforweakandiam:

things-antis-say:

blackheart-biohazards:

I’m so sorry that that happened to you, anon, and glad that you got away as unscathed as you did.

I really wish that kids online these days understood; being honest about your age does not make you safer.

Assuming others are being honest about their age does not make you safer.

Sad but true.

internet safety is so, so important. as someone who was also groomed, my hesitance to disclose personal information even under threat of suicide probably saved my fucking life

and another thing — kids don’t understand how easy this shit is to find. a woman once contacted me for a commission, and she gave a short paragraph explaining that it was for a group she was in on facebook. well, she included her name with the request, so with the details of her group and a few things she mentioned, i figured out what state she lives in and found her on facebook with a google search and a few minutes of scrolling

now, i’m not a predator, so i told her to delete the parts of this request that were available publicly, but imagine if i was. i had her high school, her work, her family, etc. a fucking GOLD MINE for groomers. her facebook was fully public, too

for the love of FUCK, you should ALWAYS assume that you are speaking to someone who wants to hurt you! ALWAYS!! unless you’ve already met someone irl, better safe than sorry

now I’m thinking how lucky kid I was because my first time on internet was at 6-7 y. o only, and I always posted my photos/real name/day of birth🙃idk how i didn’t get groomed but now I believe I have some luck hah🗿the last time I get creepy message I was already 16 or 17 y. o so I knew what to do – block that person and that’s it…

Also I knew a girl, she was younger than me (16y.o and I eas like 18 or 19) and we couldn’t meet because her parents told her I could be someone else and older. well, guess they were right to worry about such things. too bad they were wrong about me 😅

When I was a minor I was heavily sexually groomed over course of few months by grown ass man who lied to be my age. Thankfully this was mid 10s and I had some sense of internet safety drilled in my head to not give out my address, full name, pictures of area around my house, school name and so on. I even lied about things like month of birth and pets names. He had no other way to contact me other than one social media and one random ass forum group. Not even via gmail. Only thing he had was my first name, age, broad area where I lived and unfortunately pictures of me cuz I was idiot to send them. Yes, explicit ones unfortunately Long story short, I found out he was registered sex offender in 40s, not 16 year old boy as he claimed. What precisely prompted me to hide and lie about basic info, I’m still not sure to this day because I genuinely thought I was having online relationship with someone year older than me. But I wonder if it literally saved my life. Or at least allowed to live free of fear he had enough info to find me again, be it online or offline So you have no clue how much it freaks me out to see kids and even young adults give out personal info to total strangers every day online

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I’m so sorry that that happened to you, anon, and glad that you got away as unscathed as you did.

I really wish that kids online these days understood; being honest about your age does not make you safer.

Assuming others are being honest about their age does not make you safer.

Sad but true.

I wish we could bring back ‘no girls on the internet’. I dislike how sexist it is, but I miss the healthy sense of doubt the saying provided. Nowadays we treat everything people share about themselves as fact.

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Right? The specifics were toxic but the idea that you don’t actually know who any random stranger is on the internet is very important.

I hate seeing all these kids disclosing their age, location, diagnosis etc constantly.

Like man when I was 15 on the internet I was sure as hell not going to admit to it.

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im-a-problem-shipper:

blackheart-biohazards:

Yeah sorry a “”“minors”“” only proship server seems incredibly skeevy and unsafe to us.

Proship kids; I’m glad you’re here. You are valued.

Do NOT interact with anyone who wants to interact with you because you’re a minor.

You have no way to verify that the other people telling you they are minors are not predatory adults.

I am begging you to pretend to be an adult if you need to, it is SAFER.

Yes, if you pretend to be an adult, other adults may theoretically proposition you for ERP thinking you’re an adult. You can just say no.

If you pretend to be an adult, attempted groomers will not be approaching you to manipulate you because of your age.

If you say you are a minor, you are giving the people who want to harm you a “go ahead” flag.

You are telling your predators where their prey is.

I’m sorry. I know you want community. You deserve community,I don’t have a solution.

But a “minors only” server is a dangerous place because predatory adults will lie about their age to gain access to their prey.

A “minors only” server is not a safe space it is a chicken coop that lets in foxes.

While ‘minor only’ discord servers give ne the heebie jeebies (for the reasons listed above) I don’t recommend outright lying about being an adult (especially if this might give you an incentive to interact with content/people explicitly asking minors not to interact)

I rather suggest just, not mentioning your age at all. Don’t talk about being in school publicly (having a private vent blog might help if this is hard for you), don’t mention being grounded, or the ice cream you got for good grades, or anything like that as even without explicitly stating your age that broadcasts you’re young.

If someone asks how old you are tell them to fuck off, that’s private information that don’t need to know (as long as, again, you aren’t interacting with content not made for you).

Some of y’all kids need to get real uncomfortable with sharing your personal info on the internet. Please keep yourselves safe on here.

& definitely avoid ‘minor only’ discord servers. The only adults a ‘minors only’ sign is going to keep out are the ones who will respect your boundaries, not the ones who want to take advantage of you.

To be honest, I agree. Simply not saying your age is the safest bet.

People demanding to know the ages of others is so rampant online now.

I wish people remembered in this age of social media that privacy is important and you don’t owe anyone your information.

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Yeah sorry a “”“minors”“” only proship server seems incredibly skeevy and unsafe to us.

Proship kids; I’m glad you’re here. You are valued.

Do NOT interact with anyone who wants to interact with you because you’re a minor.

You have no way to verify that the other people telling you they are minors are not predatory adults.

I am begging you to pretend to be an adult if you need to, it is SAFER.

Yes, if you pretend to be an adult, other adults may theoretically proposition you for ERP thinking you’re an adult. You can just say no.

If you pretend to be an adult, attempted groomers will not be approaching you to manipulate you because of your age.

If you say you are a minor, you are giving the people who want to harm you a “go ahead” flag.

You are telling your predators where their prey is.

I’m sorry. I know you want community. You deserve community,I don’t have a solution.

But a “minors only” server is a dangerous place because predatory adults will lie about their age to gain access to their prey.

A “minors only” server is not a safe space it is a chicken coop that lets in foxes.

ETA: Its definitely better to not give your age than to lie about it, but yeah.