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if you want young queers to want to associate with elder queers then maybe the culture shouldn’t be so ridiculous and over the top. I get second hand embarrassment from drag queens and leather daddies and kinksters in puphoods acting like they represent all gays

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rthko:

I would much rather be represented by drag queens, leather daddies and pups than by petulant cowards afraid of their own reflection. You are talking about people who never had the option of being seen as “normal people who just happen to be gay” and channeled their pain into self expression, community and art. And who are you? You define yourself not in terms of who you are and what you create but in terms of who you are not and what you lack. These people you hate only seem larger than life because your life is too small and insignificant to fit them.

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buttershee:

cheezitthefuzz:

buttershee:

Idc if the kitten girl who has nine girlfriends and leaked the nofly list uses a label you personally disapprove of she’s literally cooler than you

I keep hearing bits and pieces of this story and every one makes this person sound more fucking amazing

can anyone tell me the whole shenanigan?

Basically a trans woman who’s a bisexual lesbian kitten therian who uses she/it pronouns and has nine girlfriends hacked into an airport via a public server and was able to leak the entire TSA no-fly list and announced it on its pink kitten blog with a “Holy fucking bingle. What?! :3” which is a pretty big cybersecurity breach and obviously everyone thought it was the coolest thing ever until the twitter mobs found out about the “bisexual lesbian” part and got pissed at her for being queer the wrong way. And it’s really really funny that they think they can tell a literal enemy of the state how to label her sexuality.

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tigerdrop:

tigerdrop:

there needs to be more kink and gay sex at pride b/c a lot of you need the lesson that something making you uncomfortable doesnt mean that its bad or that it should be hidden away. your discomfort is not the end of the fucking world and i promise you will survive the harrowing ordeal of seeing a man in leather

for every whiny fucking pearl-clutching response to this post im sucking off another dude on the bank of america float

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hebicakes:

cipheramnesia:

anais-ninja-bitch:

sarkos:

maxknightley:

how do you think john waters would feel if he found out that hacktivists finally have an aesthetic, and it’s “90s-throwback glittercore catgirl queer,” and there are gay people on the internet complaining that the people doing it are Being Gay Incorrectly. I think he would throw a trash can through a window.

John Waters Steel Cage Death Match

let John Waters direct the next Det. Pikachu movie

Couldn’t we just ask him?

He’s absolutely still alive

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flirtingxwithxphantoms:

blackheart-biohazards:

antishipping:

blackheart-biohazards:

Fujoshi

😘 Originally started as a misogynistic slur hurled by Japanese men at Japanese girls and women in fandom

😘 Is a pun or portmanteau that literally means “rotten woman”

😘 Colloquially means “unmarriageable”, “not good wife material”

😘 Basically means someone who is more interested in fandom husbandos than getting married and raising a family

😘 Is a widely reclaimed and self-applied label in Japan by Japanese women, and by other women in fandom throughout the world.

😘 Is still a slur if you use it against someone as an insult, including if that person is not Japanese.

😘 Funny enough if you call a western fan a “fujoshi” or a “fujo” as an insult you are using it in the same way as a conservative Japanese man who thinks women need to get offline and into the kitchen.

Hope that helps!

A few additions:

💖 Fujoshi was originally coined in the early 2000’s on 2channel, a Japanese textboard website very similar to 4chan.

💖 Fujoshi is spelt as “腐女子” using Japanese characters. It’s a homophonous pun based on “婦女子”, where the character “婦”, meaning “married woman”, is replaced with “腐” meaning “rotten” or “fermented”.

💖 It was implied that these girls were “selfish” or “spoilt” because they didn’t want to meet society’s expectations and be a submissive housewife that would obey her husband’s orders.

💖 The anti-fujoshi community was popularized in Western fandom because of TERFs, following the idea that a person who discovered they’re a trans man because of BL is “not a real man” or “fetishizing gay men” or “wants an excuse to read their hawt yaois without any backlash”.

💖 Fujin (腐人) is the gender-neutral term for BL fans, and doesn’t have to be limited to those that are only nonbinary.

💖 You do not add an ’s’ at the end of fujoshi, even when you may be referring to multiple of them.

💖 “Yaoi” is an outdated term in Japan.

#what is the word to use for girls who fetishise gay men then#asking out of curiosity

@homohamsteri There isn’t a word for that because almost 0 people actually do that.

If you think “people you don’t know for sure are queer men” appreciating and creating literature and artwork about queer men is somehow a problem then I don’t know what to tell you other than you need to re-examine why you think bigotry and exclusion are somehow progressive.

(note, this comes of as hostile. This hostility may not be directed at you specifically. This hostility is directed at people who think that demanding to see your “gay man card” before allowing you to participate in literature and artwork about gay men makes society better and more accepting of queer people.)

If you want a word for ‘this very specific but not as frequent event that used to happen in anime conventions in the early 00s’ either make it yourself or alternatively instead of seeking a word for describing such a niche problem you instead educate the person in question thats doing something that dehumanizing on why that behavior is wrong

Buuuuuut if you mean “fetishizing men” to mean “reads mlm stories only” rather than “clearly making a gay couple feel uncomfortable or ignoring their boundaries” then damn idk maybe……??? Maybe you can still spit up the terf juice?

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antishipping:

blackheart-biohazards:

Fujoshi

😘 Originally started as a misogynistic slur hurled by Japanese men at Japanese girls and women in fandom

😘 Is a pun or portmanteau that literally means “rotten woman”

😘 Colloquially means “unmarriageable”, “not good wife material”

😘 Basically means someone who is more interested in fandom husbandos than getting married and raising a family

😘 Is a widely reclaimed and self-applied label in Japan by Japanese women, and by other women in fandom throughout the world.

😘 Is still a slur if you use it against someone as an insult, including if that person is not Japanese.

😘 Funny enough if you call a western fan a “fujoshi” or a “fujo” as an insult you are using it in the same way as a conservative Japanese man who thinks women need to get offline and into the kitchen.

Hope that helps!

A few additions:

💖 Fujoshi was originally coined in the early 2000’s on 2channel, a Japanese textboard website very similar to 4chan.

💖 Fujoshi is spelt as “腐女子” using Japanese characters. It’s a homophonous pun based on “婦女子”, where the character “婦”, meaning “married woman”, is replaced with “腐” meaning “rotten” or “fermented”.

💖 It was implied that these girls were “selfish” or “spoilt” because they didn’t want to meet society’s expectations and be a submissive housewife that would obey her husband’s orders.

💖 The anti-fujoshi community was popularized in Western fandom because of TERFs, following the idea that a person who discovered they’re a trans man because of BL is “not a real man” or “fetishizing gay men” or “wants an excuse to read their hawt yaois without any backlash”.

💖 Fujin (腐人) is the gender-neutral term for BL fans, and doesn’t have to be limited to those that are only nonbinary.

💖 You do not add an ’s’ at the end of fujoshi, even when you may be referring to multiple of them.

💖 “Yaoi” is an outdated term in Japan.

#what is the word to use for girls who fetishise gay men then#asking out of curiosity

@homohamsteri There isn’t a word for that because almost 0 people actually do that.

If you think “people you don’t know for sure are queer men” appreciating and creating literature and artwork about queer men is somehow a problem then I don’t know what to tell you other than you need to re-examine why you think bigotry and exclusion are somehow progressive.

(note, this comes of as hostile. This hostility may not be directed at you specifically. This hostility is directed at people who think that demanding to see your “gay man card” before allowing you to participate in literature and artwork about gay men makes society better and more accepting of queer people.)

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genderkoolaid:

The argument against kink in public seems to be, to my understanding, that any kinky act is has some inherent sexual component or motivation, and therefore kink in public is equivalent to sex in public, and therefore indecent. Wearing a puppy mask or a collar in public is done for sexual reasons, so its indecent.

And my question to them is: where do you draw the line?

If we agree that non-sex acts that have some kind of sexual component or motivation are indecent and should not be allowed in public, where do we draw the line? Should kissing be illegal, or maybe only kissing with tongue? Should revealing bikinis and thongs be illegal? Clothing that has sexual innuendos on it? Should grabbing your partner’s ass be illegal in public? Should it be illegal for anyone to wear a dog collar, because it might be sexual? How can you tell if someone is doing something or wearing something because they are getting off on it, rather than doing it for other reasons?

What’s most likely to happen is that the things that will be considered too indecent for public are the things that are considered non-standard sexuality. If enough people in your area view a gay couple holding hands, or an androgynous person existing, as sexual in nature, then it’s indecent and shouldn’t be allowed in public. Its entirely based on what the culture around you views as inherently sexual. If a straight couple is making out on a park bench, there is likely some sexual component or motivation to that act- do I have grounds to consider that indecent and sexually explicit? Why not? Because the people in my neighborhood don’t find that especially jarring? Why shouldn’t they be criticized for their sexually motivated public act? The people who are going to be targeted are going to be people who are already seen as abnormally, overly-sexual dangers to children. “Normal” sexuality is allowed to exist in public without being seen as notably sexual, but any display of “abnormal” sexuality is seen as overt and dangerous.

And that is why this is about queerphobia, too. You can’t argue that the system of what is indecent exposure in public should be based off of what people consider inherently sexual, and then act like that will never ever be used against queer people- when a central part of queerphobia has always been that queer people are inherently sexual, and sexually perverted, and that any display of gayness or transness in public is inherently sexual. Basing laws off of what makes people uncomfortable is always going to allow prejudice to rule. That is why kinky people and queer people have an intertwined history; we were all sex freaks in the eyes of the law, and in many places, we still are.

This is why I feel the much better way of judging such things is: Are people actively engaging in a sex act (as in, they are having sexual intercourse)? Are genitals exposed? Are bodily fluids being left in public where they pose a health hazard? Is it causing genuine disruption to other people’s lives?

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sushigal007:

unthrifty–loveliness:

salkryn:

It’s called the foot-in-the-door method. First, you propose something that is slightly outside of allowable norms: denying gay people wedding cakes on grounds of “religious freedom”. Then, you slowly ramp up how extreme your demands are, coercing the other side to giving a tiny bit of ground each time, until you’ve shifted the entire fucking playing field. Conservatives are also very fond of the door-to-face method, which is demanding something completely outlandish that you know will be refused, and then asking for something less ridiculous by way of compromise, again resulting in a gradual shift in norms until views that were once considered moderate or reasonable become unthinkably liberal by destroying people’s sense of standards. The combination of these methods is called the “foot-in-the-face” method, which sums up where this whole thing is headed quite nicely.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Door-in-the-face_technique

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foot-in-the-door_technique

Hey remember how you guys kept saying “why not just go to another bakery”? 

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rouge-the-bat:

“i just want non-queers to just see me as a normal person just like them” cool good for you. meanwhile ive been a weird little freak since i was a kid and the world is gonna have to learn to accept me like i am or ill start burning shit

you can be down for simple assimilation for yourself but many of us just want to be respected as is because theres nothing wrong with being different. especially those of us who are also neurodivergent on top of queer or many other things people often ostracize in society.

if you want other queers to water themselves down or just completely close off parts of their identity and self expression so that you wont be associated with those ~freaks~ and can be more easily accepted by The Normies, then you are not caring about your fellow queers at all.

we arent doing any harm, and we should be pushing for people to accept others no matter how HARMLESSLY strange and unusual they may come across. challenging the norm is the only way to get more people accepted across all communities.

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karadin:

the-primordial-chao5girl:

satanfemme:

why are twitter users calling out the therian kittengirl who’s wanted by the US government and who just leaked the US no-fly list with a “:3” for being a bi lesbian. lgbt infighters are on another level. it has 9 girlfriends and is an enemy of the state, I think it can use whatever labels it wants at this point 😭

Reblog if your blog is polyamorous it/its bi lesbian therian kittengirl friendly

This is half a joke but actually do reblog if you’re polyam inclusive, neopronouns inclusive, m-spec les/gay inclusive, therian/otherkin inclusive, etc

the tags tho

#my god this person is the epitome of be gay do crimes#but because it doesn’t fit into the specific aesthetic mold you want then suddenly that’s all you care about?#is your head empty?