having to learn about boundaries in order to enforce them against your abusive family.
coming online and having to explain to children that boundaries don’t enforce themselves and you can’t be mad at people who violate your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.
You are responsible for enforcing your own boundaries. This includes DNIs.
A boundary or DNI is not a magic spell that controls the behavior of other people when they’re around you.
A boundary is basically a sign saying what your behavior will be if someone violates your boundaries. Your behavior is that you will not interact with a person who violates your boundaries.
There will be two types of people who interact with your boundaries.
People who respect your boundaries: these people will see your boundaries and not cross them because they are being polite.
People who do not respect your boundaries: these people will violate your boundaries. And when they do it is up to you to enforce those boundaries by refusing to interact with those people.
Boundaries do not control other people’s behavior. They describe what behavior you will tolerate in your presence.
When someone violates your boundaries you remove them from your presence.
Us: hey can you not be a freak on our posts with family relationships please, it makes us super uncomfortable
Proshippers: WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???
just block them ????
Honestly the fact that you decided you and everyone like you have no obligation to care about the boundaries of other people when it gets in the way of Your Precious Ship is fucking disgusting.
It should not be up to us to go out of our way to stop you people from being gross on our posts. You have the ability to read “this is not a ship, don’t tag it as a ship” and respect that boundary but you actively decide not to.
Boundaries are something that YOU enforce by removing access to you from people who violate your boundaries.
You cannot use your boundaries to control the behavior of other people.
Boundaries are saying “hey, I won’t interact with you if you do that” not “you’re not allowed to do that.”
If someone violates your boundaries, you leave.
That’s how boundaries work.
“Boundaries make me sick :’( just let me say I think the child and forty year old should fuck :((“
Your boundaries are your boundaries. They do not control other people.
If you don’t want to associate with people who ship age gaps then block those people.
You can’t put the responsibility for maintaining your boundaries on other people.
You are the only one who can maintain your own boundaries.
When people don’t respect your boundaries you remove yourself from that person.
Us: hey can you not be a freak on our posts with family relationships please, it makes us super uncomfortable
Proshippers: WHO THE FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE???
just block them ????
Honestly the fact that you decided you and everyone like you have no obligation to care about the boundaries of other people when it gets in the way of Your Precious Ship is fucking disgusting.
It should not be up to us to go out of our way to stop you people from being gross on our posts. You have the ability to read “this is not a ship, don’t tag it as a ship” and respect that boundary but you actively decide not to.
Boundaries are something that YOU enforce by removing access to you from people who violate your boundaries.
You cannot use your boundaries to control the behavior of other people.
Boundaries are saying “hey, I won’t interact with you if you do that” not “you’re not allowed to do that.”
