She says hi and thank you, but yeah, she’s not coming back to the front for a bit.

She’s had a hell of a time lately and we cant figure out why besides the universe saying ‘fuck you’.

I don’t know how she managed to be the one at the front for both the graphic rape threats and then the child abuse thing which are both very specific to her triggers.

It is a frankly pretty wild and awful coincidence and it has left her in rough shape, especially feeling bad about how she handled the abuse thing and feeling like she made trouble by being triggered.

I’m hoping when she does feel okay to come back there won’t be another incident; we’re all pretty protective of her.

ruhlare:

just a friendly reminder that you don’t deserve pain. sometimes we think we deserve to be hurt and sad, but that’s not true. there is no reason to hold on to our pain or justify it. we shouldn’t be hard on ourselves. we are worth healing.

vaguewaves:

blaacknoir:

demongender-vibes:

blackheart-biohazards:

Now here’s a bonkers take.

Proshippers are like terfs because??????? (insert nonsense here).

Here’s a note for OP– terfs want you to have fewer rights and to police what you’re doing and how you express yourself.

Proshippers want you to have more rights and don’t believe you should be policed for how you express yourself.

i mean tbh if the person who sent that ask finds themself agreeing with terf talking points that often then they need to start questioning why more

Not necessarily, believe it or not.

Quite a few TERF posts are meant to come across as non-threatening or relatable. They’re meant to be “toned down”. And the reason for it is exactly what the asker is experiencing. You’re meant to see the post and, instead of thinking “Well a stopped clock is right twice a day”, you’re supposed to think “Well, maybe not all radfems are bad. Maybe this one has a point.” And that’s when someone starts turning up the heat in your little froggy jacuzzi. It’s meant to draw you in and slowly turn you toward them.

It’s propaganda… and you are not immune.

TERFs / RADFEMS DO NOT INTERACT

I feel it goes the same ways with antis 
They start off with ‘don’t ship adult x child in fiction because that is the same pedophilia and you don’t want to be a pedophile do you?’ 
Which will get people scared about their morals, and agree with it 
Then they will get more extreme about what you can and can’t do with fiction, who you can and can’t interact with, teaching you to be scared of everyone, and see crime where it isn’t. 
Until they turn to sending death threats to those who just have questions about it. 

demongender-vibes:

blackheart-biohazards:

Now here’s a bonkers take.

Proshippers are like terfs because??????? (insert nonsense here).

Here’s a note for OP– terfs want you to have fewer rights and to police what you’re doing and how you express yourself.

Proshippers want you to have more rights and don’t believe you should be policed for how you express yourself.

i mean tbh if the person who sent that ask finds themself agreeing with terf talking points that often then they need to start questioning why more

😈 You are not bound by the Hays code.

😈 You are allowed to have evil characters who are not punished by the narrative by the end of the story.

😈 You are allowed to have evil characters who win.

😈 You are allowed to have evil characters who make evil look fun and cool.

😈 You are allowed to make your fun, cool evil character the protagonist.

😈 You are allowed to glorify, romanticize and eroticize evil characters and villainous acts.

😈 You are not obligated to teach your audience a moral lesson.

starrbar:

One thing that always baffles me and that I legit continuously forget about because it’s such a weird concept to me is that lots of people think that to “ship” a pairing is to view it as completely healthy and ideal for both characters involved, and to thus want it to be canon.

But that’s… just not the case with so many ships??

Think of it this way. I could legitimately see a ship as “relationship goals” and “should be canon”, but I could just as easily see it as a thriller or toy train crash or a way to vent about my own, real issues that I’ve had to overcome.

When I watch a horror movie, I don’t necessarily want my favorite characters in it to die. And even when I do want people to die, it’s not because I think it’s a good thing?? It’s because I know it’s fake and it’s fun to watch or think about. It’s fun to play superhero punching the bad guy. It’s fun to play games where you set people on fire or make a giant fish swallow them.

And when I “ship” something ungodly toxic or downright awful, it’s not because I’m under any impression that it represents a relationship that should be imitated or strived for. It’s because it’s thrilling. It’s exciting. It’s weird. It’s even uncomfortable sometimes, but it’s uncomfortable in a therapeutic way.

I’ve never seen someone ACTUALLY glorifying the unhealthy aspects of their favorite ship. I only ever see people playing toy trains or coping with trauma.

And it’s goddamn bizarre to me that so many people think of “shipping” as an inherently prescriptive thing when it’s actually just a game.

It’s just a game.

It’s JUST A GAME.

bellossom:

*knees crack as i get on top*

lo-andbehold:

I’m so emotional about dinosaur stuffed animals,,, there are these creatures, extinct long before any of us were alive, but we found their bones and their eggs and their footprints. And we made drawings and models of what they could’ve looked like. And we made them into stuffed animals so we could hold them. We made them soft so we could love them. I’m sobbing

brightlotusmoon:

chaumas-deactivated20230115:

digitaldiscipline:

avon-vila:

arceusbeta:

butch fatale

She walked into my office with the swagger of a racecar pit crew boss. From her steel toed boots to her safety glasses, this dame was giving me forklift certified vibes strong enough to shake me loose from my classic depression laced with alcoholism.

her carabiner jingled with keys to four speakeasies, two u-hauls, and a thousand broken hearts.

Whimper