I remember hitting my parents as a kid, because I was screaming and crying and trying to get away for a LONG time before I raised my hands at them. Turns out I am autistic, they were meltdowns, and I was overstimulated. But they treated it like a tantrum every time, and never allowed me to go to my room and cool off. That was not my fault. And it certainly wasn’t my fault that they never taught me to handle my anger as a kid.