If I can tell a feel – good story. I also used to be.. uhh very dictatorial about my boundaries due to past abuse, until I met someone who had the same double as me (which I had in my DNI) but.. she was so nice to me and I realized “maybe it can’t hurt to be friends with her” And to this day we have a blast talking about the same FO. I’m not saying people should just let their walls down but idk I thought I’d talk about this experience.